Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are....!

Some people find peace in the dark, whereas some are anxious about that... or let's take hight, water, or any simplest of thing as an example to consider, it's different for every single individual... we become what others tell us to be and the reason behind that is revealed in this book....the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

since our childhood, we are in some or the other way bounded in such several agreements to ourselves that we make them our boundaries to survive into. These agreements which we sign to ourselves are the ones either proposed by us or by the ones we live with.

What kind of agreements are these.....
We are very innocent and new to the world in our early childhood days. we don't know what's good or bad for us therefore we believe and agree to all what our parents, siblings, neighbors, elders, friends, or anyone we talk to... now if you tell a 2 or 3-year-old child that he is smart then, he tends himself towards being smart... which means he accepts himself to be smart and starts to act like that... and on the other hand if we tell a kid that he isn't worth anything, and make him feel useless then he accepts it as a fact and tends to behave in such ways.

Now as we grow older even we all make some useless agreements to ourselves and make them our boundaries. maybe consciously or subconsciously these are forced by our parents, friends, teachers, or any person we hang around with.
It doesn't signify that our parents want us to have wrong agreements about ourselves, but it's like they even don't know that they also agree to the agreements.... now the point comes why are we into this it's just because of a fact called belief... we are told by our parents that for a successful life you need good grades in your resume, on the other hand, we are told by our friends that a perfect complexion and color, weight, height is needed for you to look best. Even we are told by the society that boys are emotionally strong and girls are less capable.

Now there are 100s of such wrong perceptions and agreements which lead us to a person other wants us to be, or look like.

There are 4 agreements proposed by the author which would help us to be us.  

1. Be impeccable with your words... You might have heard a very influential saying that.  Words have the power to make or break a person and that is 100% true. To be impeccable with our words means to choose our words wisely both for the person we are in a conversation with and yet for ourselves. Now this works as humans have a bad habit of agreeing on other's opinions and make it their beliefs. I was a small child since when I was told to have a bad voice and that's what stopped me from singing...we have an enormous tool with us which are words. So say positive words for both others and yourselves. To know the power of your positivity does visit my previous blog The secret.  

2.Never take anything personally: this is a very powerful agreement we need to sign for ourselves. It suggests that people are there to talk whether it be encouraging or most probably discouraging..but we are supposed to ignore all that. Its simple for anyone to say just ignore but there is a very influential reason behind that. people usually say bad things about us, because they think us to be more powerful than them. it's human nature to degrade all the ones that are stepping out faster than them in simple words people always discourage the ones who are above them, this discouragement taken as an agreement buy the more Cable one, and people will easily beat them. so it's very important for us to stop taking everything personally if people talk discouragement, then feel pity for them, other than taking it as your set back.

3. Don't make assumptions... once, the author was traveling in a train... a man with his two naughty kids boarded in...those boys were so notorious that they started to run all over the place, disturbing everyone and making a mess, This behavior irritated all the passengers including the author and even the author started to criticize the man for not being able to handle the kids and stated him responsible for their behavior. And not scolding them...only when he had a conversation with the man, then he came to know that the man was so depressed and unhappy due to the loss of his wife a few hours ago... that moment the author realize that assumptions can really prove you wrong and can become the reason of many conflict misunderstanding and rumors... so it's important to clear your thoughts with better communication rather than assuming and making things worse...

4. Give your best... all of us can claim that we give our best in all things we do....but the truth is we do not even take a breath properly.... doing things just to complete cannot make you ready to give your best it's just indulging yourself into the work. this blog is my passion and I love writing it...that's what I give my best to convey things....best for everyone differs... maybe your best will come out on the day your feeling most energetic and maybe not on a day you are ill...but it's about taking things in hand and believing to give your best even if the condition is most unfavorable... Just do your best and leave the rest is all I conclude. 

Sign these agreements in your life and see a drastic positive change coming towards you.

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