This is the most astonishing book I have ever read, easily my favorite and most recommended for you to read. I have been a socially awkward and uncomfortable person my whole life, until recently when I learned to open up, but I am still not good at it. But this book just fuels you with confidence. You feel like you are better than others, just by knowing all these tricks and tactics you can read a person like a book. This Book is condensed with facts and the author's experience, hats off to the author for sharing this information, Now let's talk a bit about the legend himself.

 Joe Navarro worked as an FBI special agent and specializer in counterintelligence and behavior assessment, after retirement he started writing books and training people off of his experiences. in 2005 he even worked with world series of poker academy and started teaching poker players, how to read other players. And this book is his masterpiece.

Non-verbal behavior makes 60 - 65% of all the communication, Facial expression, body moments, voice tones, postures, all are considered non-verbal behaviors. And you have to understand these moments are a lot more honest than words from their mouth. Because these are automatically performed by the reptilian part of our brain. So next time try to notice these nonverbal behaviors when talking to someone and you might come to know shocking truths about them. (lol)

Lets set up the prerequisite before learning about all these tactics. Just like the listing is important to understand people's speech, observation is important to understand these subtle behaviors that human bodies make, These moments are so subtle that you might miss-concludes them and start overthinking, like "How dare you, cross your arms like that, I knew you hated me from the beginning" and that's why careful observations are immensely important. And just like active listening does not come naturally and is hard, you have to train your body to start observing. so here are 9 Commandments to train your observational skills.

Situational awareness - When you enter a room, don't just look at it, feel it, Take a deep breath, is there any unusual smell? how is the temperature of the room? any unusual sound? Be casual and take notes in your head, don't be a weirdo, walking around smelling people and telling them the fan is making some unusual sounds. take it easy.

Know the Context before concluding - Car Accidents don't only happen because it was the driver's fault, or sweaty palms don't always show nervousness. You should know the full backstory of the situation before dropping that detective conclusion of yours.

Learn to recognize Universal body language - for example, lip compression displays discomfort. We will be talking more about universal body language later.

Idiosyncratic body behavior - Behaviour specific to an individual, for example, some people sweat, some people stutter a bit, while these are unusual behaviors, but for these specific people, this does not mean much. 

Notice Baseline behavior - you should notice how people behave when they are normal, how they hold or place their hands, feet, their facial expressions. vs how they act in a stressful situation.

Look for signs in succession - When generally people expand their nostrils they are about to take an action. So, the Author's dad had a pawn shop so it is normal for people to stare at antique things. but one guy was staring at the cash register and the author noticed that but he cannot just call him out for that. But the author observed that his nostrils expanded, at this moment joe knew he is about to grab it and run away. so he just went there and kept register in defusing the situation. 

Detect False behavior, Distingues between comfort and discomfort,  And be subtle while taking the observations. because no one likes to be stared at.

Our body is controlled by our brain, so it is important to understand our brain. There are three parts in the brain, the limbic, the neocortex, and the reptilian. The limbic brain the most active part it is always responding the outside worlds and is the most honest part of our brain, on the other hand, the neocortex is the least reliable this is the part that allows us to lie, to manipulate, this is part that creates complex speech. and the reptilian part is the part of brain from eons and is the one responsible for Flight or Fight action.

But Joe says that this is not completely accurate, there is one more step prior to fight or flight, Freeze. When Faced with an extremely uncomfortable or stressed situation/question you freeze, in this, the words don't come out, you want to speak but you can't, here your brain is deciding where to get out of the situation, flight, or just face it head-on and fight. Know that Fight is always - always the last resort, you always want to avoid the situation, but when you just don't see any other way you fight. Joe explains that you're cognitive abilities are hijacked, you don't think logically and just try to defend yourself. Your fear is converted to rage and You just go for it, sometimes we regret it later when thinking about it. but it was just the situation's call you can't do anything now. Meanwhile, the limbic brain stores every single worst and best memories, that has ever happened to you and seeks safety and survival, so when you see your high school bully after a long time even when you are 30. Your limbic brain will pop up that high school memory and you will respond in the same way, you will feel discomfort and try to run, even when nothing is the same. Oppositely, meeting a friend after long sparks the same kind of attraction.

I want to cover everything in detail and the summary is already very long, so I will cover the non-verbal behaviors in the next part, and I hope you will stick around! Thank you for reading have a nice day.

part 2 is out! here is the link - https://www.bookconnection.in/2020/09/what-every-body-is-saying-by-joe_27.html

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