"We crave a life we want but always tend to say yes to things that aren't that"

If someone asks are you a nice person.....probably all of you will have the same answer Yes. What if they ask, are you always a very nice person? What would your answer be... if yes then this book is definitely for you...
This book made me realize a really different side of being a very nice person always. and that too the negative one. So this book can definitely be a life-changer one for all those nice people out there.

Have you ever noticed a person who is very nice to everyone and thus always taken for granted and for them, the author says that there is a 99% chance for the person to be betrayed or cheated or some or the other. Have used by others, and these people according to the author are most lonely, unhappy, and even unsuccessful.
Being too nice for people makes them work and move on other's wishes and will leave back their own happiness behind this even sometimes makes them unsuccessful and unwanted.

Now, this doesn't signify that author wants us to be a bad person but wants every person to be nice up to a limit... If crossed then would lose their self-worth, self-respect, would be taken for granted, and even would seem less attractive. I would be pleased to share some mistakes from this book to help the too good people and also the ones who would be entering this category.

DONT HOLD BACK- the biggest problem with nice guys is that they are too nice to express.now that means, suppose a nice guy and a girl are in a relationship. Both just fight for silly things but whenever it comes to separate the too nice guy feels sympathy for his girl and then again continues the relation....and the same goes on... This is wrong in every sense as the nice guy isn't able to speak his heart out and thus both are unhappy in their lives. holding back isn't a solution... the very first thing they must start is letting their ideas or opinions out even if it is against others. just to consider another example....too nice guy would never say no to his friends for anything, say a movie which he doesn't even like....but he will waste his2 hrs instead of just saying no..this happens even with all of us whether nice or too nice are we. So its really important to look at your willingness first rather than taking decisions just because of others. This would really help you from getting a dull and boring person.

SET HIGH STANDARDS - one of my neighbor's sons was always bullied and made fun of in his college. Everyone used to see him as a dull annoying and less attractive person... His friends used to make fun of him and used to laugh at him, now in return, he used to laugh with them ignore them or sometimes he used to get away without saying anything....but when his friends would ask him to do their work like xerox or assignments or any such tasks...he was always there for them just because he thought this would make others like him but this wasn't true ....because just after their work they used to bully him again.

Now, this usually happens with too nice people just bcoz of their mistake of not setting high standards for themselves. Setting high standards for themselves not only brings respect but also helps avoid unnecessary setbacks in mind.

PUT YOUR NEEDS FIRST - It's ok to be selfish when it comes to you because if not you then who will take care of yourself. one day a patient visited the author and shared his problems of not able to be happy, migraine issues, and many more even after having more than sufficient money. the author just asked him one question which left him with a big question mark to himself....and even you all should analyze this question that, "what in the whole day you do for yourself?"

Please don't consider mobile phones, video games, or any other pleasure in this... If you closely examine the whole day you would be merely left with 1 or 2 things which can be considered... Everyone needs to understand that being nice is a good thing but keeping yourself side and being too nice for others is just foolish. start to consider yourself, your need, your likings, dislikings, and every single thing that makes you happy. Just start to live for yourself first then only you can live for others.

At last, just a reminder... "that being nice is nice but too nice sometimes takes your life's nice aways"

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Happy Reading!